On the May 31 episode of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, Lisa Hamme and Usman Umar officially tied the knot. Although a celebration of their marriage took place onscreen, Baby Girl Lisa recently revealed in an Instagram Live that she and her husband were no longer together. While she may be grieving their relationship, it was obvious from the start that this couple was never going to last long term.
Lisa traveled to Nigeria to meet Usman on Before the 90 Days season four, but their relationship was anything but a fairytale. Instead, Lisa started multiple arguments with her Nigerian love over the course of her trip, demanding that he cater to her needs and ignore the opinions of his friends and family. Despite their constant bickering, Usman followed through with their marriage on the May 31 episode of 90 Day Fiancé. Although they had a tumultuous relationship after the show, it seemed that the couple was trying to make things work. Unfortunately, Lisa recently appeared on an Instagram Live and revealed that she and Usman are no longer together. In fact, Lisa claimed that Usman only married her to advance his rap career. She accused him of posing a romance scam and painted herself as a victim in his quest for fame.
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While there may be some truth to Lisa’s newest claims, her relationship was Usman was doomed from the start. Beyond their massive age difference of 20 years, the couple was unable to communicate effectively. Lisa was jealous of the other women in Usman’s life and demanded that he ignore his fans and give all his attention to her. She argued with Usman constantly and refused to hear his point of view. Instead, if Usman said something she didn’t like, Lisa would storm away and accuse him of being disrespectful. With the exception of Usman’s mother, who was also the deciding factor in whether the couple could get married or not, Lisa also showed zero respect for the other people in Usman’s life. She yelled at his brothers, his friends, his music manager, and anyone else that she felt threatened their relationship. She refused to keep things to herself and instead started drama that put Usman in uncomfortable situations.
While Lisa is clearly the bigger problem in this relationship, Usman isn’t entirely blameless. Although he never said he was marrying Lisa only for a US visa, he implied that his rap career was his first priority on more than one occasion. In addition, he was caught communicating with a fan in a way that was quite inappropriate while in a relationship, saying things like “I love you” and sending heart messages. Usman also expected to be the head of the house, while Lisa believed that she should be in charge. Their idea of gender roles in a relationship didn’t match up, and neither had any interest in changing their position.
To put it simply, Usman and Baby Girl Lisa were entirely incompatible. They had no ability to talk through their issues and couldn’t find a way to come to a mutual agreement. Lisa was controlling, jealous, and obviously insecure, which impacted her ability to trust Usman. At the same time, Usman’s true feelings towards Lisa were unclear, so he wasn’t exactly deserving of her trust. While the breakup is clearly hard for Baby Girl Lisa, part of her should have known that the relationship was never going to work.
90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days airs Sundays at 8pm EST on TLC.
